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I know someone who is grieving now and so I took a couple of webpages and created this. Grief relates to almost any personal loss. It is not specific to death, divorce or loss of job. It can be the loss of a friendship or of a pet. This information is universal: THE PHASES OF GRIEF Many people refer to the "stages" or "phases" of grief. It may be helpful to be aware of these identified phases or common aspects of grief. It is also important to know there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You may go back and forth between phases, experience more than one at a time, or even skip one all together. All feelings are normal, even if they seem "crazy". Shock is the first stage of numbness, disbelief and unreality. Denial is thoughts or words such as, "I don't believe it -- It can't be!" Bargaining involves making promises such as, "I'll be so good if only I can awaken to find this hasn't happened" or "I'll do all the

April 11.2010 The following is a follow up on a letter regarding an assault . . . her original letter is here . One year ago today and all I can think about is how much I hide and how stupid it is. I kinda don't know how to feel on one side its like I really need to stop hiding and get over it its been a year and on the other side its like I want to just curl up and not come out. I know how that is. You wanting to move on and yet you can't. It shows insight on your part that you want to have it "over with", but things don't always work like that. You'll get better and you will recover, but it never entirely goes away. Just like any pain it will always be there, just getting smaller and smaller in the recesses of your mind, until you hardly think of it at all. It will happen. Have faith in that. Don't hide and stay in your house. You'll have to make an effort to socialize, but it will come. With time things will become easier. If you're in counsel

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Dear Xenina, My whole life has been within a small community, small school and very much church driven as far as the events/ hobbies and attended places were concerned. My life has always been highly protected. Last April, I was shopping at the local shopping center with friends as we often did for something to do on the weekends. One this day, we parted at the same intersection we always did to head in the directions of our own homes, one street away from my home was grabbed by this guy, the details of such I don't really want to go into. I never said anything to anyone for two weeks when my mum was talking to me and I broke down about it. As you can imagine my mum was very concerned and tried to be very comforting, can't really say anything bad about that but I know that she was hurt that I never came to her when it happened. The whole thing had to be reported that was horrible, having to say every single detail. Since then, I had to see a councilor, I never really

Dear Xenina, To cut a long story short I am torn between two woman. The first woman I am dating and is very attractive but we arent very emotionally involved (I think thats how she likes it). The other I am just very good friends with but we have a great bond. We have both admitted that we like each other as more than friends but neither of us have done anything since shes just come out of a relationship she was deeply involved in . . and I have a girlfriend at the moment. However, she is also a lot further away from me than my girlfriend is. So my question is which should I choose? Should I stick with my current GF who is close or try a long distance with a girl i have a lot of feelings for and she returns them? Torn (18 yrs old) Alright Torn, I'm going to tell you something I hardly ever advise. Do what's convenient at the moment. Are you going off to college or the army? If you have plans to be on the move and/or do something with your life at the moment, you need not w

Thanks for viewing, I don't know many girls and my social life doesn't really cross paths with many girls besides the ones I know. Been seeing the one with me now, and my situation left me knowing that just got to hold onto the best thing for you before it's not there no more. That's why when things don't all go well I still try because when it come's to good girls she definitely one hell of a good girl. Note that she broke up with her ex of 4 years so I'm very laid back and just cruising just to give her space. Many people would tell me to just move on and wait for someone else, but realistically when I say my social life doesn't cross pathes with many girls I mean it, also there's a great girl in front of me I just want to keep trying til she tells me she has no interest. People tell me I'm so naive but sometimes people over complicate situations, if you keep it real and simple it probably go your way. Opinions please? Opinion Seeker Dear Opini